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This web page was created on, or around, the 1st of March 2019, and sections have been added over time, so what was added first, comes first.
So, after a 6-year struggle with the kids mom, I've decided it is time to start being a bit more structured, and present my case with some critical documents.
Over years, the kids mom has made it difficult to see the kids, and she has used 3 different lawyers over that period of time. Lately, the husband of her twin sister, a police officer in Mo i Rana, has been a contact person for her (I wouldn't say mediator, because he seems like an extended windpipe for the kids mom, trolling along). In 2009 I got severely sick, psychotic, and today I'm much better shape. In 2013, I rejected a relationship with the kids mom, and that is the reason I see, that she is making my life difficult.
According to the law, we should share expenses for traveling to see the kids, but since 2013, the kids mom has not paid me what I understand is a fair share, for my expenses.
In 2015, there was a court case, a court case which I lost, but in that case, I gained the possibility of seeing my kids with supervision. I'm still paying interest on this court case.
So on the one side, the kids mom is earning interest on a court case I had to make, on the other side, she won't share expenses for seeing the kids, according to the law.
This week, Monday the 25th of February 2019, I got a message that the person supervising my visits with the kids, had become ill, and that this meant that my visit to see the kids this Saturday the 2nd of March, was cancelled. She has not been ill earlier, and she's been to quite a few of these visits.
Straight after I got this email, I mailed the kids mom's contact person, and 4-5 hours later, he replied that it wasn't possible to setup something this Saturday in a public space, so I could get to see the kids, or they could get to see me, as planned.
Those emails are linked here and here. It's relevant to add that the kids mom's contact person, is a police officer, and that he likes to reply to messages writing new messages, which makes it a bit difficult to follow an email thread. He usually doesn't reply within the same thread.
So to recap that last bit, and to illustrate the situation that has been going on for years; Monday there was a notification that the supervisor for the visit Saturday was sick, the same day I got the message that it wasn't possible for the kids mom to have the kids in a public space for some hours on Saturday. Also, today Friday I got the message that the kids mom was traveling away with the kids this weekend, so she quickly made plans to travel somewhere else.
I'd say I've seen the kids less than 2 hours each month, since the summer 2013, and that's even though I've been to every meeting about the kids, and every meeting with the kids.
On the 21st of May 2018, I pressed charges against the kids mom. On the 7th of February this year, I pressed charges against the kids mom's contact person, because he is a police officer and displays behaviour that I find questionable for a police officer.
People that have been involved in this case for a long time from the public sector, are Inger-Ritha Olsen, Justin Smith, Rubi Stjernen (communal/family health/supervision), Per-Martin Utkilen (police internal affairs). All, or almost all emails sent in this case, have been on copy to the Norwegian police.
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My email is morphex@gmail.com.
So, here's an added section to
http://blogologue.com/cwhich was added on the evening of the 8th of March, 2019.
I think it's important to underline that today, with my financial situation, it is difficult for me to go another round in court, because if I lose the case, that is, if I "essentially" lose the case, I can get the court costs of the kids mom, and the previous court costs and the new ones, can become so large that it is impossible for me to service that debt. The only way I can get to see the kids today, is by going to court, to get court-appointed supervision, so I can have some time with the kids.
With my experiences with the kids mom, I think there is something wrong with her. If I was in a relationship, we could have broken that relationship off, and that would have been pretty much it.
But I did get two kids with her, and this means that I have to deal with the kids mom, as long as she is in a position where she has control over the kids.
Now, to get down to why she has control over the kids, that is a long story, but lets get it started.
In 2009, when I got psychotic around the birth of my first son, I had a business that was growing. After I got sick, I was partially working, to keep the business running, and my business partner Stig Rune Øyra, was doing a job keeping us up and running as well, more than what he usually did.
So, alongside working, I was in treatment, both with medication that alters the functioning of the brain, and going to psychologists and psychiatrists.
Fast forward to 2013, and the relationship with the kids mom had deteriorated so much, that we broke up, she moved, and she took the kids with her.
In the summer of 2013, I rejected a relationship with the kids mom, and after this, it became difficult to see the kids.
In the summer of 2015, I was in court, to get to see the kids, and I did get to see the kids, but lost the case, and this is where the court costs come from, costs that I'm paying 1000 NOK a month on, which is about 6% of my income, before taxes.
But, another financial part of this, is that I decided to work in the company while I was sick, and when the hosting part was sold off to Copyleft, because it was too demanding, the recurring income disappeared, and the money that was in the bank accounts dwindled down.
If I had been smarter about the running of the business, I would have been on a 100% of close to 100% sick leave, which would've left money in the business.
Today, I could have borrowed money from the business, to pay off the court debt to the kids mom, and had another round in court.
I think it is important to take responsibility for one's choices and actions, because that's how you learn. But, in this situation where I essentially lost my business, lost contact with my kids and ended up in a financial hole, I was medicated, mentally ill, and going to therapy.
I've been thinking about who is responsible for this, and it is obviously me, but also NAV, the Norwegian combined unemployment office, welfare office, pension administrator etc. It is also the healthcare system, and the psychologists Gunnar Gotaas, Morten Mitsem, the psychiatrist Daniel Molyneux, all working via Tiller DPS. My primary care physician has since I've moved to Trondheim in 2010, been Thor Digre.
If I remember correctly, Gunnar Gotaas and Morten Mitsem were my psychologists close to the trial, and Daniel Molyneux my psychiatrist after the trial.
I've taken up problems with the kids mom with health personnel, and a lot has been sent in written, documentable form to Daniel Molyneux and Thor Digre, after the trial, so it can be proven.
In 2018, I found that my relationship with my primary care physician Thor Digre, had deteriorated, and he asked me to find another primary care physician. After some time, I did find a new primary care physician, I waited a bit to see if Thor was serious. Before our relationship deteriorated, I had taken up problems with the kids mom and things related to that.
Towards the end of 2018, I've heard from others that I didn't look well, and I've had some passing health problems that can be recurring in nature later, which I didn't address with Thor Digre, because of our relationship issues.
As I'm writing this, it seems pretty clear to me, that multiple people have done something wrong, or there is something wrong with the system.
I've experienced the kids mom as on the one side acting hurt, sad etc. in family counseling, and right afterwards seeming happy, as if she was playing a game, flirting etc.
The trial in 2015 was lost and I got the court costs, in big part because of the findings of the court-appointed mental health professionals, that found the kids mom to be "great". Sylva Krogh was their representative in court, and I've blogged about them earlier.
They've changed their name, and they did so on the 31st of October 2017, from INSTITUTT FOR KLINISK FOREBYGGENDE TILTAK - IKFT AS to KLINISK KOMPETANSETEAM AS. I guess it is relevant to point out also here, that the business was started in July 2014, about half a year before they were appointed by the court for the trial the summer 2015.
Anyway, they say the kids mom is great, and this to me, means that there are a lot of women in Norway that are selfish and damaging to others and that this is acceptable socially and culturally, or, that Sylva Krogh and her colleagues have had ulterior motives, in corruption, serving political and cultural interests, doing someone favours etc.
Mo i Rana is not that big of a place either, so I guess knowing that someone could make your life difficult for years could also be a factor.
But, I'd like to think that they knew what they were doing, another possible motive is that they need to keep the population numbers growing, I've heard some mumbles/grumbles about women from Mo i Rana.
So there you have an overview of the healthcare/court side of this story, I could give more details, but I've got more posts to make later.
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Here's an added section, posted on the 7th of April, 2019. It was also posted on my blog, http://blogologue.com/blog_entry?id=1554648397X85.
Recently I was at a pharmacy, to pick up some Seroquel Depot medication, at the Norwegian pharmacy chain Apotek1, their store at Heimdal.
I ordered 5 packs Seroquel depot 50mg online in their webshop, and things looked fine.
I went to pick it up, and I was the last customer serviced that day. It turned out that they did not have 5 packages available, and after some complaints from me, the pharmacist gave me a 150mg package of Seroquel depot, and 2 50mg packages of Seroquel depot, which was an OK solution, then and there.
However, I find it worrying that a pharmacy advertises, and makes it possible to order important medication online, and when you come to pick it up, it isn't available. I could've bought some packs before traveling, I could've had few packs left at home etc. - and it is an inconvenience that they don't have important medication - AS PROMISED.
I've read online that the maximum concentration of medication in the blood (and its effects and side-effects), can be different for a patient taking 2x150mg of Seroquel depot, as opposed to 1x300mg of Seroquel depot.
I've been on the same dose of Seroquel for quite some time, on 50mg tablets, and it has worked well, I'm in good shape.
However, I've also earlier experienced pharmacies (from other chains) having few packs of Seroquel available, so overall, it seems that a person that has emotional or cognitive problems, should keep a stash of medication at home. Which isn't a bad idea, because I see there are shortages of some medications from time to time.
Apotek1 is a commercial chain of pharmacies, and they get their rules & regulations from the state. They are basically an extended arm of the state healthcare system, when they dole out prescription medication.
I see that Seroquel depot is available in 50mg, 150mg, 200mg, 300mg, 400mg. But not 100mg.
I find that odd, and seeing that the dosage for various psychiatric illnesses start at 150mg a day, I'm entertaining the possibility that the medication is not available as expected, and the dose of each tablet is setup, so that the healthcare system can manipulate the patient in how they take medication, and how much.
I recently changed primary care physician, because the previous one was a bit of a disaster, and I've talked to my new primary care physician about wanting to reduce the amount of Seroquel I take, due to mental side effects, as well as long-term physical side effects.
Thinking about how eager my old psychiatrist Daniel Molyneux was to get me over on anti-depressants, and he, my old primary care physician Thor Digre, and NAV - the state welfare system, was negative to me using exercise as a way to manage and stabilize mood and manage physical health, I do entertain the possibility that they have setup the medication dosage, and the distribution system, so that they can fuck with the medication.
And if they fuck with the medication in such a way, what else do they see themselves are justified in doing? What else are they fucking with?
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Here's an added section, posted on the 20th of April, 2019. It was also posted on my blog, http://blogologue.com/blog_entry?id=1555791759X12.
So, I've been in a conflict with the mother of my kids for 6 years now, and for some time, her brother-in-law, a police officer in Mo i Rana, Vebjørn Svidal, has been a contact person.I've found his role questionable, in that he as a police officer, has some authority and credibility, and that he then meddles with this conflict, can give the kids mom credibility, because he is a police officer and doesn't do anything about what's going on. For example, reporting the kids mom to the child services.
I reported him to the internal affairs branch of the police, some more info is on this page.
But long story short, the internal affairs dismissed my complaint, but at the same time, forwarded it to the police district where he works.
In my complaint(s), I say that Vebjørn acts as an extended windpipe for the kids mom, trolling along; and that she does not share expenses for me seeing the kids, according to the law, and hasn't done so for 6 years. I write that his meddling in this conflict is questionable, and that he must realize that he, being married to the twin sister of my kids mom, is surrounded by people who can influence him, every day.
But also importantly, the internal affairs did not say that anything I wrote is untrue. A complaint given to the police does have some weight to it, as it is a bad idea, and can be punished by law, to lie to the police.
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Here's an added section, posted on the 17th of May, 2019.
I just recently wrote an email to the county governor, with plenty of people and instances on copy, my lawyer, the welfare office, the health department and the local newspaper (emails attached).
In those emails (1, 2), I write that I recently read about a Norwegian handball player, had big problems with her knees, and that I was just recently seeing my doctor about my knees, and pain/clicking noise from the knees.
Going back a few years, my old primary care physician Thor Digre, my psychiatrist, and the welfare office were each in their own way, negative to me using exercise as a tool to improve mental health, but also physical health. The psychiatrist was positive to more pills, anti-depressants.
When they are negative and don't support me financially, I have to pay for the membership to the gym myself, and it is a bit of money for someone who is on low income due to sickness, later unemployment etc.
I earn about 200.000 a year, and the gym membership costs 6000, or 3% of that. I also pay interest on court costs for a case about seeing my kids, which is 12000 a year, so about 10% of my gross income, goes to old court costs, and a smart choice to rehabilitate my health, and improve my work capacity.
After 2 years of training at the gym, I think it has been well proven that starting to exercise was a good choice, a better choice than taking more pills.
I also ponder on whether those 2 years of gym membership, would cost the state about as much as seeing the psychiatrist for 1 hour.
So I sent them these emails, because of these choices in treatment and support, but on the follow-up email I also state that the bureaucracy with their choices for expensive medical treatment instead of simple pre-emptive treatment, makes the bureaucracy look like something that soon is a 100 year old karma.
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Here's some extra text to the previous text posted on the 17th of May 2019, some more comments about the emails and the thinking around them.
In the emails, I write that I mentioned pain in the knee to my old primary care physician Thor Digre, and that I wanted an MRI, to see how things were with the knees at that point in time. One of the reasons I wanted an MRI, is that in 2015, a week before seeing my kids for the first time after going to court to get to see them, I was in an accident, which gave me problems on the right side of my body.
I thought it would be nice to have an MRI then, so that it would be easier to tell 5-10-20 years later, if the knee had deteriorated, and if it could have been traced back to the accident. That's because it would then be easier to prove permanent damage due to the accident, and get damages (reparation). But no, getting an MRI was out of the question.
About 10 years ago I suffered from sciatica on the right side, and when I do push-ups now with the feet high, the scar from the accident is quite prominent on the top of my head. So if I've had problems before, and I get a hard knock in the head and a strain on the neck, that could worsen an already existing problem.
About 6 months after the accident, I had some shaking in the right arm along with pain, and an MRI of the neck later proved that there was a ruptured disc in the neck, but that it was not pressing at the nerve (at that point in time).
After talking to health personnel, my understanding is that I could've ended up paralyzed and possibly have died in that accident, had things gone a little differently. There was for example some stairs with sharp edges on that bus, and me moving with a large force towards it with my neck, could've made for a broken neck.
But the critique in the email, goes mostly on the choices in treatment the system (bureaucracy) makes, my new doctor pointed out that I was doing squats wrong when I showed her, and if I'm already using up a lot of my money on seeing my kids and health, it is difficult to pay for some consulting from a personal trainer, to get corrections on how I do exercise, to prevent injuries. So I'd say the bureaucracy has been dragging its feet for years when it comes to supporting me in my efforts to get back on my feet and take care of my health.
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So, here's an added section to
http://blogologue.com/cwhich was added on very early morning of 27th of June, 2019.
So, a lot of interesting things have happened in the last year, but I'm going to limit it to 2 things on this posting, and one of those things is that the psychologist Morten Mitsem I've mentioned earlier, was hovering around me in the gym not long ago, and it seems that he now goes there regularly. I've given him and his colleagues quite a bit of critique, and it did seem like he was hovering, and I don't know if he was there alone, or with someone else.
Anyway, I guess he has as much right as me to be there, and he looks like he could use the exercise.
On the more tangible side, I sent an email to the kids mom on the 12th of May (English version, original Norwegian version), asking her to give a full account of what she has done in relation to me, since she got to know me. She did not respond to that email, and her contact person, Vebjørn Svidal, has not responded to that request, but he did ask for a meeting on short notice, on the 21st of June, the day before I was to see the kids, but I declined, because it was on such a short notice.
On the 25th of June, at 15:34, I sent a new mail regarding the request for a full account from the kids mom to Vebjørn Svidal, but I haven't seen a response there either.
So there has been some communication back and forth for over a month, but nothing has been said from the other party about giving this full account. I think this shows that the kids mom, for some reason, does not want to give a full, written account of what has happened, she refuses to do so, and has done so for a long time.
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Here's an added section, posted on the 8th of October, 2019.
So, a good while ago, the leader of the Norwegian family welfare office in Mo i Rana, Justin Smith, contacted me as he wanted a meeting about the roles the people in the office and the person assisting me in my visits seeing the kids have.
I'm not sure what the deal was, because the meeting so far hasn't taken place. But it might have been that I privately wanted to pay the person assisting me (Rubi Stjernen) in these visits for more time, so I could spend more time with the kids, or it could be because I've asked Rubi to welcome the kids, so that I don't have to deal with the the kids mom (Hilde Olsen), her contact person (Vebjørn Svidal, Hilde's brother-in-law an police officer) or any other member of that family.
Anyway, I agreed to such a meeting, then a bit later I figured out there were other things I wanted to discuss, as this conflict about the kids has been going on for 6+ years, and the family welfare office in Trondheim and Mo i Rana have been involved in the conflict for 6+ years.
I sent this email asking for an extended meeting, with the things the leader of the Mo i Rana office wanted to discuss as the first point over 7 weeks ago, but haven't heard anything after that. I send a reminder some weeks ago, and I sent a final reminder last Friday, the 4th of October, asking for comments. I haven't heard anything back.
I think the lack of response, says a lot in itself.
Here's a copy of that email, translated to English:
Subject: About contact meetingTo: Justin Smith, justin.smith@bufetat.no
Hi Justin.
I don't have a place to [have a call] that is fully private, so I thought I could borrow a room at the family welfare office in Trondheim.
There are a couple of other things I want to talk about:
1. The roles the family welfare office, visit supervisor etc. have
2. Carrying out visits, wishes
3. Extension of visits [time with the kids]
4. Parental responsibility, why can one party refuse to share information, when is this [considered] irresponsible
5. Review of [conflict] history up until today, confidentiality [non-disclosure], the position of moms and dads in family matters [conflicts], the position of the parent the child is living with, in family matters
I think we can say 15 minutes on each point.
I would like 15 minutes alone in the room before and after the meeting, to prepare and round up. I want the meeting to take place circa in the middle of my [scheduled] visits to see the kids, in about 3 weeks.
I will probably want to have more meetings.
I prefer to have meetings towards the end of the [working] day.
I will record the meetings.
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Here's an added section, posted on the 6th of December, 2019.
So, this week I got an email from Justin Smith, leader of the family welfare office in Mo i Rana. I was disturbed by this email, in addition to behaviour he has displayed earlier. Here is that email [edit 12th December 2019]: I sent in response to this].Subject: A notice of concern regarding Justin Smith, leader of the Norwegian family welfare office in Mo i Rana, and the family welware offices in general
To: postmottak@bufdir.no
Cc: Justin Smith <justin.smith@bufetat.no>,
Lise Lydersen <lise.lydersen@bufetat.no>,
Vebjørn Svidal <vebjornsvidal@gmail.com>,
lillian.naerem@rana.kommune.no,
rana.tingrett@domstol.no,
post.trondelag@politiet.no,
Postmottak Nordland politidistrikt <post.nordland@politiet.no>,
sylvakrogh@outlook.com
Hi.
I'm concerned regarding Justin Smith, as he displays a behaviour that is unsuitable, with regard to him being a leader that arbitrates in family conflicts, and has the role of overseeing [time parents have with their kids], which I have gone to court to get, time with my kids.
Justin Smith has earlier this year (on the 16th of August), asked for a meeting with regards to the supervised time I have with the kids. I said yes to this meeting, and a few days later, I added some points which I wanted to discuss. I sent a reminder regarding this meeting on the 17th of September, and the 4th of October. Wanting to have this meeting was also mentioned by me on the 13th of November, in an email about a new round of arbitration.
I think Justin Smith is quite foggy and at times annoying to talk to, and that the family welfare office in Mo i Rana and Trondheim, doesn't come across in a way one might expect - as a neutral party for the best interest of the kids. Where their best interest is among other things, to have [a good relation with their dad].
It seems for example that he [Justin, in conversations], waits for me to say something, and then starts to say something, [to disrupt and/or annoy me].
..the meeting [that Justin originally wanted] was never arranged, and a couple of weeks ago, I called the family welfare office (familievernkontoret i Mo i Rana) in Mo, and talked to Justin Smith. There I suggested 2 alternatives for having the meeting. One was that Bufetat (The Norwegian Directorate for Children, Youth and Family Affairs ), paid for the travel expenses, where the meeting could take place outside of the periods where I see the kids, the other was a meeting over the phone, where I get to loan an office space from the family welfare office in Trondheim (familivernkontoret i Trondheim). Justin was negative to both of these alternatives. I then suggested a third alternative, that I rent an office in Trondheim, and send the bill to Bufetat. I did not catch a positive response to this. It is important for the meeting to be able to speak openly, without [people that had no right to hear confidential information being able to hear it].
This shows that several alternatives for having a meeting have been suggested.
Justin knows, or should know, that it is an extremely small amount of time I get with the kids compared to what I want, that the kids mom [Hilde Olsen] only wants to share expenses for the cheapest transport [added: about 500km each way on train] and not staying overnight in a hotel, and that there has been a long conflict, and still is, between me and the kids mom. And that I think it is important to get the most out of the time I get with the kids.
I have previously said that I wanted arbitration about the parental resposibilities, where they live, time with parents etc. to be outside of the periods I have time with the kids, to get the most out of these times with the kids.
To then force in a meeting at 09:00, the exact same time as the time with my kids starts, is therefore strange, and inconsiderate. It goes without saying that this also limits the amount of time I can use on the meeting (talk about things I want/need to discuss), and that it disrupts the execution of the time I have with the kids.
I think it is important to have good health, and for example regularly check my blood pressure. The highest blood pressure I've had this year, has been very close time-wise, to a visit to see the kids.
Attached is an email sent to Justin with points I wanted to discuss in addition to what Justin wanted to discuss ( http://blogologue.com/justin1_en.txt ) , and an email sent from Justin this week, with my answers ( http://blogologue.com/justin2_en.txt ).
Regards,
Morten
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